In our previous blog, we discussed, how do we incorporate a routine during this lockdown phase? Tips for parents and children to create that perfect routine. Please click here to read, if you missed reading it.
It’s 7 am, the meeting has been scheduled sharp for 8 am, but alas!! you woke up late, and now you have to quickly prepare breakfast, wake up the children, dress them, feed them and help them get ready for their online classes. In a hurry, you drizzle extra salt on the egg, and by the time you log in to zoom, you realize that you missed editing the presentation nor was your child’s task uploaded on Padlet.! Pretty messed up, huh!!
“Answer to chaos & mess is – ROUTINE”.
It is no fun watching our children loitering around in their pajamas, munching on something every 15 mins while continuously looking at the screen……… sometimes excessive casualness isn’t very cool!!
A schedule can be a family’s best ally during the coronavirus lockdown because children thrive on structure.
Being under lockdown has definitely brought forth a different set of challenges especially with children, their online classes, parents’ work from home, and no help. It is, therefore, more important than ever to be organized and add structure and routine to the day, otherwise everything piles up and everyone ends up frustrated.
Well, the truth is, most of us were operating around a routine before this pandemic hit us. With office and school, both parents and children had a scheduled life. Even after office hours and school timing, we had our extra classes, fixed study timing, fixed mealtime, and back to bed on time because of the next day’s routine. Thus our weekends felt freer. Our children were also used to having a structure to their day and were not used to occupying themselves for hours on end without it.
But in lockdown, everything’s changed, and rather than relying on timetables or school bells to keep our routine in check, we are left to ourselves. The most exhausting part for parents was supervising their children’s teaching and learning for prolonged hours –an added responsibility.
Creating a schedule for the family can be a way to regain, even in a small way, a sense of order and normalcy and a feeling of being in control
So, why do we need a schedule during this isolation, all the very more?
- Our children have a lot of unstructured time now, we need to know what to do with this time and be productive.
- We don’t want to go towards the “no-work-all-play” direction.
- A routine will help us have a consistent mealtime, failing which may lead to fluctuation in our overall metabolism.
- We want our “work-from-home” peaceful and productive. At the same time, we also do not want to over-plan their days.
- We need to manage the juggling of spaces in the household as well as resources such as computers and other devices.
- With extra screen time for children, its human tendency to let things slip….after all who doesn’t want peace. We need to control this.
- A fixed routine will help us fill in all the extra hours we and our children have, thus we will get our much-needed rest time as well. the feeling of “finally I am done for the day” is ecstatic.
- With everything outside being so daunting and full of uncertainty, we want our children to feel safe and secure at home, hence we need that schedule to maintain our and our children’s sanity and sense of normalcy.
- Without a routine, every day will look the same and the weekend will blend into every other day. This sounds like the worst nightmare. Weekends are supposed to be SPECIAL.
A routine brings a sense of familiarity even in a new set-up, and when we are familiar with something, we feel safe. Same with our children, when they know what needs to be done and when they feel secure, their anxiety lessens. The first 3 months of lockdown did feel like an extended staycation for our kids, but going forward, we have to accept this new normal and our new routine.
We need to remember that mental-wellbeing is more important than ever, both ours and our children, this consistent routine throughout the day will help keep a degree of normality.